Raising my kids to be socially responsible adults in this world can seem overwhelming sometimes, but then I remember that my parents did it. I was the fifth child of seven and, by the time I came along, my parents didn’t have a lot of time for volunteering or activism. Yet, I grew up seeing them as activists and volunteers and wanted to be both myself. My point here is that we don’t have to be Mother Theresa to effluence our children. Our kids are watching us and little things make a big impact on them. Here is a list of things my parents did or that I’ve observed in other places that I think are good starting points for raising preschool-age children who are empathetic, grateful and begin to see a world outside of their own. None of these suggestions are likely to be new to you. These ideas are more of a reminder that our best is probably enough and we do influence our children in the little things we do.
Share the Social Issues You Are Passionate About With Your Kids.
Cocoa was a very big part of my childhood. My mother made us goodnight cocoa and good-morning cocoa every day. Although I had to be about four at the time, I remember my mom explaining to me the reasons we had to change brands. She told me how she was distressed by marketing tactics in third world countries that she found unacceptable. Thirty-some years later, I still avoid this brand. In fact, because of that one conversation, if there is a chance to boycott something I’m morally opposed to, I jump on it. I’m not suggesting you need to join my weird boycotting compulsion to raise socially aware children. One conversation, changed me profoundly.
Share Your Values Even When They Are Controversial.
This is a hard one for me. I know my kids have big mouths and I prefer to keep my values and political views to myself. However, my parents were never afraid to share their values. I know this kept me firm in my own values through high school even when all of my friends were more worldly. Another part of sharing your values is doing the things you want them to learn and letting them see you — take them to vote with you or take them to church. You probably already do these things because you can’t leave them at home alone.
Express Gratitude Together
I think the easy way to do this grace before meals, but if prayer isn’t a part of your family dynamic than just a discussion of reasons to be thankful as you eat dinner or tuck them in will give them an thankful outlook on life.
Here are some easy ways to put these concepts into action:
Let Your Kids Pick Something Out for the Food Shelf.
The grocery store is a great place to teach our children about giving. When you are in the canned food or cereal aisle you can ask them to pick something out to help feed hungry kids. Along the same lines, the postal service’s Stamp Out Hunger campaign is a simple little way to give with your kids. I send them to the cover to pick something. My mom used to do this, too, and I know I used to pick the thing I hated the most. This has been a good conversation starter with my kids about why we give to those in need.
Have Your Kids Help You Pick Out a Toys for Tots Gift.
Toys for Tots and programs like it can be particularly challenging for preschoolers. They tend to pick out something they want for themselves, so giving it away is not easy. When my oldest was in Kindergarten, she picked out Zuzu Pets as her Toys for Tots gift. It was difficult even at 5 for her to realize the toys were for others. Of course she ended up with one in her stocking, too, but not for another three weeks. This can be a good lesson to learn and if we praise our kids for doing the hard thing, it will be easier to do the next time.
Collect Things Like Labels and Bottle Caps.
This is a really easy way to give with your small kids. We used to have a box where my kids put every plastic cap they found. We saved them to give to Aveda for recycling. This was actually a really fun project. The bottle caps made great open-ended toys while we built up our collection. Unfortunately, Aveda is only working with the 1600+ schools already signed up for its program, but there are other things to collect. Kids love collecting things, why not give them a purpose to their collecting. The following are some ideas.
- Box Tops for Education.
- Labels for Education.
- Pop Tabs for Ronald McDonald House
- Aluminum Cans for your charity of choice
Read Books or Watch Films That Teach Compassion or Show Other Cultures
I don’t even want to start with suggestions for which books and films. There are so many good ones. Big-Hearted Families has an annual book club where they suggest books.